A different sick baby

Today Bennett is the one who needs babying. He got his wisdom teeth out this morning. Our portion was higher than I thought it was going to be, because I didn’t understand the paperwork they’d gave us before, but I had gotten a credit card offer right after Ben lost his job and I thought that might be needed in an emergency and I guess this was the emergency. I’m glad I had it.

After, we went to our regular CVS in Mustang to pick up the four prescriptions. We waited in line and were next to go when the pharmacy closed for lunch, at 1:30 pm. Bummer. So we went to Walmart and I bought gauze and puddings and popsicles and things while he waited in the car. We went back to CVS and got there right at 2 pm and got in line. Then when we finally got there, they informed us that the prescription had actually been called in to a different CVS instead of the one we requested. Okay. We turned around and went back north for about seven miles to the other CVS and got in line, and eventually, we had his prescriptions in hand. The funny thing is, if I had only known they were going to call it in to the wrong CVS, we could have had the meds right away. The oral surgeon was basically across the street. Both CVS stores are on Mustang Road, so I can see how that mistake could happen.

He said he was going to go up to the car taking forever at CVS and just look in their window like this.

We parked in the lot and he got his medication. I was very glad because he’d had a few big bouts of pain, just really sharp and sudden.

By the time we got home, he was asleep, thanks to the stronger of the prescriptions. I woke him up and we went inside and now he’s on the couch, snoring.

I was going to go with Karlene to see Jerry tonight because hospice has said that his passing is imminent, but I don’t think I should leave Bennett like this. I originally thought Mia would be here when we got back because I misunderstood what she said her work scheudule was today. I don’t want to leave Bennett alone here.

I also can’t go see Jerry tomorrow because we are going to take Belinda to NWOSU for Ranger Preview. She needs to go to this to prepare for going to school there in the fall. Just attending gets her a $600 scholarship.

We’ve already made plans to go to Jerry’s on Sunday afternoon, instead of hosting church lunch here. I hope he is still with us that day.

It’s hard when there’s no clear correct answer.

Thirty days of gratefulness – An Opportunity

Today’s prompt is An Opportunity.

I am very grateful that I am now writing again for the Tuttle Times. My friend Jayson is the editor now, and he posted on facebook that he was looking for something to write for Minco and Union City, and get paid by the story, and I commented that if he was ever looking for someone for Tuttle, to hit me up (cause I don’t want to do Minco and Union City, sorry not sorry). He did, and I’ve been doing stories them for over a month now, which is wild because it’s gone by very quickly. It’s not a lot of money but it is nice to be getting a little something. And I am enjoying getting a toe back into the local news and community scene. It’s been a long time.

It couldn’t have come at a better time, too. I used my first check to help us out during the trip to DC for surgery earlier this month. And now the second and third checks is keeping our bank account from going negative, so I am very grateful for that!

When I commented on that post, Ben was still employed with no inkling that he was about to lose his job of 28 years. I just thought it would be good to write news again and to make a bit of money at the same time. But God knew what was to come. I believe that He put this situation in place, and it will help us through this difficult time.

My triumphant return into the world of journalism, in the Oct. 3, 2024 edition.

And now you know the rest of the story.

Insurance schminsurance

Today was the day I battled insurance!

I’ve been having some trouble getting one my own prescriptions filled with the specialty pharmacy I have to use. They told me our insurance showed as terminated on Oct. 31. I explained that we had extended it with cobra, and they were basically like, too bad, so sad. I have waged war with this specialty pharmacy before so I wasn’t super surprised. Then after two days of calling them, they discovered that I needed to get a refill order from my doctor anyway, so I did that.

Last night Ben and I rolled into CVS to pick up a prescription for Belinda. And they said, of course, that our insurance showed as terminated.

Ben got in touch with HR and it went back and forth a little. Today my doctor messaged me and said the prescription had been sent to the pharmacy. So I decided to call the insurance company myself and after an hour wait on hold, got connected to a very nice woman who set up a conference call with us and the specialty pharmacy. And the pharmacy rep told us that the office we made the cobra payment to needed to contact them and tell them that the information was incorrect and that we were covered.

I passed this on to Ben, who was tired of being the middle man and asked the HR rep if could just talk to me, and that’s what we did. I emailed her what the pharmacy had said, and she took care of it. The specialty pharmacy is updated and they also left a voicemail to CVS, so hopefully that one will be updated fast too. I am very thankful for his kind former co-worker!

Okay, so I just called the specialty pharmacy and they have not gotten the prescription from the doctor. Sigh.

I guess I’ll call CVS and see what the update is there.

It’s annoying that so much was paid for the extra month of insurance, and for two weeks we didn’t have pharmacy coverage. I am thankful that we didn’t actually need it, though. My prescription is late, but I did have a few extras from days I forgot to take it, so I think it will be all right.

And in the grand scheme of things, these problems don’t seem very big at all. I know that I am blessed. Thank you to everyone reading my updates and praying for Belinda, and may God bless all of you. <3

For sure spasms

I asked the parents in the kids with achalasia group on facebook, and it is definitely spasms. Several people said their children describe the sensation the same way.

I’m very grateful that Belinda doesn’t have them very often. I’m also grateful that they don’t last very long for her. She did say today that sometimes they last longer, like a few minutes, but still. One parent said their child has experienced them from an hour up to two days.

There is medication you can take that supposedly helps with it, but Belinda and I talked about it and she doesn’t think it’s at a point that should be medicated.

She’s also supposed to think about what she ate and drank before one, so she can figure out her triggers. She said she hasn’t had one since the dilation, so maybe that is helping.

I’m glad that she talked about it and now we know what it is. She was frightened that she was having heart problems, but now she doesn’t have to worry about that.

Oh, and bonus fun, the insurance through cobra seems to be working fine EXCEPT for prescriptions. Both pharmacies we use says that it says our insurance has been terminated since Oct. 31. Today I was on the phone with one of the pharmacies and also the insurance company. They were all nice but it’s apparently out of their hands. Insurance lady’s advice was to wait until tomorrow and see if the computers have caught up by then. Even though this is Day 14 of the coverage with cobra. The person at the pharmacy said that the office we paid for cobra coverage needs to contact them and tell them we are indeed insured. So now it’s back in Ben’s court, to deal with HR.

My speciality pharmacy prescription is now 7 days late. Belinda has one to pick up, and so does Lenora, and we can’t do it. It’s pretty bad that the cobra extension cost so much and it’s not even working correctly.

Thirty days of gratefulness – Something You Use Daily

Something You Use Daily is today’s prompt.

I am thankful for a lot of things I use daily. I think I will choose to be extra grateful and elevate our running water above all else.

We have lost water several times here. Our system needs electricity to run, and so if we don’t have power for whatever reason, we don’t have water. We’ve also had the pump go out or other issues with the well. We’ve been without water for weeks at a time before. We always make it work, but it sure is nice to have all the running water you want at the touch of a handle.

I think you don’t really appreciate all the showering, and hand washing, and flushing, and animal watering, and cooking, and cleaning, until you don’t have easy water anymore.

I am thankful for running water!!

Thirty days of gratefulness – 3 Big things

This prompt is 3 Big Things.

This is still backdated just a teensy bit. And I’m going to cheat a teensy bit and say the 3 Big Things I’m most grateful for are my children. Even though I used them as my 3 Small Things.

Because the fact is, in my heart they are 3 little things, but in reality, they are now 3 pretty big things. Lenora is married somehow. Bennett is engaged. Belinda is about to graduate high school and go to college. They are big people now, and they are doing big things, and I believe they will do even bigger things in the future.

I am so grateful that I have gotten to watch them grow up. What a privilege.

Possible spasms

Yesterday Belinda went to her pediatrician to discuss a strange problem.

When we were in DC, the anesthesiologists asked if she had any heart difficulty, and she mentioned that sometimes it felt like her bones were burning. I was startled to hear this and didn’t know what to make of it. She said it just comes on suddenly without warning, and feels like everything is on fire as she gestured to her chest. The anesthesiologists didn’t seem concerned. I thought maybe it had something to do with the Ehlers-Danlos and I looked that up later and it seemed possible.

Anyway, I got her the appointment and we went in yesterday. At that time, she told the doctor that it is in her jaw and chest (I thought she meant her whole body before this) and it feels like her ribcage is being spread out. She has it once or twice a month, it lasts for less than 30 seconds, and is excruciatingly painful.

The doctor began explaining the nervous system but my mind clicked immediately over to esophageal spasms, which most of the facebook group parents say their children have. The doctor agreed that it could be that. I did some research and it sounded likely, including the jaw pain, which I found surprising.

I’ve posted on our group to explain the sensation and ask what their children say their spasms feel like.

If it is spasms, I don’t think there is anything we can do but just knowing what it is, and that it’s not life-threatening, will hopefully make it easier on her.

Waiting for the pediatrician

EDS appointment set

I made an appointment for Belinda with an Ehlers-Danlos specialist, and set up one for myself as well. The only specialists all appear to be in the Tulsa area, unfortunately. The appointment is in December, so we’ll see where we are with the health insurance debacle.

I think that a lot of the pain I’ve had in my life is probably due to this, and I’m hopeful that even though Belinda doesn’t seem to have problems from it, we might be able to head things off at the pass.

Thirty days of gratefulness – A Smell

A Smell. I’m tempted to link back to one I wrote on this a few years ago, which was the smell of my grandparents’ woodstove. But I think that would be cheating.

I can’t smell as well as I used to. Covid took that from me in Dec. 2020. I can get some things, but not all. One thing I can’t smell very well is poo, which would seem like a good thing but it is not if your house smells like poo and you don’t know it and you have guests. That’s not good at all.

I am grateful for the smell of Old Spice after shave. My dad wore Old Spice, and when I smell it, I think of him. Ben and Bennett both use Old Spice deodorant, but the after shave has a bit of a different scent to it.

I actually haven’t smelled it in a very long time. I wonder if I can still smell it, or if it would be different now?

Thirty days of gratefulness – A memory

Today’s topic is A Memory.

This is difficult for me because I try to be thankful for every memory I have. See, a few years ago God led me to this little book called “The Power of Praise” and it talked about how important it is to be thankful to God for all things. All things. Good or bad. Because all things work together for the good of those who love God. And so I have thanked God for all of the things in my past. It really is freeing. I know that even when things seemed bad to me, it’s all part of a beautiful tapestry of human existence that I will not comprehend this side of heaven.

And besides that…it’s tough to pick one memory.

So I will pick the cherished memories I have of my sweet boy cat named Pal, who along with his brother Drumm were my babies before I had babies. Both were good boys, but Pal was especially a Mama’s boy, and if I reached down to pick him up, he would get up on his hind legs and stretch his arms up to me and I would pick him up and put him over my shoulder. I didn’t teach him to do that. He just did it. The memory of that sweet cat reaching up to be held is the one that I will choose to single out and be grateful for today.

Two gray tabby cats cuddling together.

My twin men – Pal (on the left) and Drumm.